Everybody is stupid for someone, and that’s what I like about love. Love is the great equaliser. People do stupid things for love—we’ve all been there. You do uncharacteristic things, things that you’ve sworn off, or things that you’ve always said are lame or boring.
For instance, I have watched the Star Wars movies (long before I actually became a fan) and was bored out of my mind. In my defence, they were the prequels. I also sat through The Lord of the Rings movies. I drew the line and refused to watch The Hobbit movies.
I took my husband to beer festivals, even though I’m not a drinker, but it was usually quite fun.
Obviously, he also puts up with my weirdness, the monthly mood swings and munchies, and overall blond moments. He handles it like a champ, though.
Thinking about what I and my loved ones have done for love has inspired me to search the internet for some of the stupid things other people have done for love. Here are a few:
Asking to marry him after faking his own death
This one guy faked his own death and then asked his girlfriend to marry him. I’m sorry, but if my significant other did that I would say “No, you sick fuck”. Honestly, this guy went the whole nine yards. He got a movie director, make-up people, stuntmen etc. to make it look as real as possible.1
Love is pain
Another crazy guy thought if his ex-girlfriend saw him getting shot and in pain, she would take him back. So, he got his friends to shoot him. The guy was in pain, despite that, the ex-girlfriend would not take him back (I wouldn’t either—that’s just asking for a bunch of crazy).1
Cuddling with a corpse
So, we see a trend of ‘crazy’ here. One guy, Carl Tanzler, basically stole the corpse of his crush and lived with it for seven years.1
He worked at a hospital and the woman, Maria de Hoyos, was brought in as a tuberculosis patient. Carl tried everything to save her, plus giving her many gifts, but she didn’t make it.
He had a mausoleum built for her and visited it every night, but later he decided visiting it was just not enough and took the corpse to his home. He modified the corpse with a wig and glass eyes. I don’t even want to think about everything he did to that corpse. Ew. Thankfully, he was eventually arrested.
This one hit me right in the feels. In the 1950s, a Chinese couple (Liu Guojiang and Xu Chaoqing) ran away from their village and lived together in a cave. The reason they did this was that their society frowned upon their relationship. Lui was a nineteen-year-old boy and Xu was over 10 years his senior and a widow with kids at that.1
They lived in the cave with Xu’s kids. After many years, it became harder and harder for the elderly couple to climb to the cave. For this reason, Lui spent half a century carving a 6000-step ladder for Xu. This makes me believe even more in love.
A few short ones
These didn’t make the news—they’re just random people on the internet.
One guy in India took a six-hour bus ride, on top of the roof of the bus. That is dedication. Obviously, he did this to see his girl.2
A guy donated a kidney to his girlfriend’s brother, only to find out later that he was, in fact, the girlfriend’s fiancé and she had been cheating on both of them. She broke up with the guy to further pursue the relationship with the fiancé.2
A woman travelled halfway across the world to visit her romantic partner. In the end, it didn’t work out.3
The more general ones
There are several more common stupid things that people do for love.
Here I’m not just talking about moving to another city, some people have moved across countries and even across the globe to be with their significant other.4 I moved to Australia, but we moved as a couple and luckily it’s working out. My mom moved with my dad to another town for about two-three years for his work (they still fight about it)
Quit a job
Some people quit their jobs in the name of love.4 For example, my mom quit her job when they had us. I’m not sure if it was her own decision. I’ve heard of other people who quit their job because it was putting their relationship in danger, i.e., they were constantly working and didn’t have any time to spend with their partner.
People lose friends because of relationships, although I don’t think that is healthy.4 This especially happens when your significant other is jealous and a bit crazy. They don’t like that you spend so much time with your friends and not with them. Obviously, at the start of a relationship, you’re going to spend a lot of time with each other and friends will take a back seat for a while, but it’s important to try to maintain balance and all relationships, otherwise, they may resent you.
Some people make the mistake of changing because of their significant other.4 It can be good or bad. It can be bad in that you start drinking or smoking and partying to be with the person. Sometimes it can be good when you learn new healthier habits, like losing weight or stopping smoking or drinking. However, I feel like that is not sustainable, because the only person who can truly change you is you. If the change wasn’t for yourself, you might also end up resenting the person.
Relationships are expensive. Obviously, you want to go on dates, and you want to spoil each other, but damn, don’t get yourself into a massive amount of debt to do it. I would say, if money is a problem, have a conversation about it. If they care about you, they will also want your finances to be healthy.
Watching series behind their back
You will not believe how many people I know watch series behind their significant others’ backs. We all know how it goes. You, as a couple, discover a series together and promise to watch it together. However, curiosity gets the better of one of you and then you have to pretend to be stunned at the ‘shocking revelations’ that occur on screen.
Have you ever done something stupid or crazy for love? I’d love to hear about it – the contact details are below.
P.P.S: I used these websites as sources