This post was inspired by a video I stumbled upon a few days ago, and by the nuptials and separation of two couples I know. So, let’s talk about love… again.
Here is one of my favourite comedians, Daniel Sloss, talking about love. It’s a bit ironic, because his comedy special, Jigsaw, inspired many breakups.
Skip this paragraph if you don’t want more details on the comedy special, Jigsaw. Basically, Daniel Sloss explained that life is like one big jigsaw puzzle and the centre thereof would be the thing or person who is the most important to you. However, sometimes people get into relationships and the partner takes over their jigsaw puzzle to a point where they don’t even know who they are anymore. Apparently, this metaphor resonated with many people—hence, the breakups.
Here is the video; enjoy.
Like he said, “Being in love should be the most inconvenient thing in the world”.
Funny enough, that’s how I felt when my now-husband and I started seeing each other. After our first date (although I’m not even sure if it was a proper date), I thought: “Oh for f#$k’s sake, now I have feelings”. Then every time I saw him, I thought, “Stop being so f#$king adorable!”
I was so used to being on my own and doing my thing that the relationship caught me off guard—but in a good way.
Moving on to other love stories
Somewhere in January this year, I went onto social media and saw that this girl I knew in high school started dating a guy I knew in high school. It was adorable.
Then in March they got engaged. At this point, I was like: “but why?” I doubt that she’s pregnant. (I don’t think you should get married just because you’re pregnant, but anyway, that’s a discussion for another day). Then at the start of May, they got married.
Look, if you want to get married so quickly, knock yourself out, but I wouldn’t want to fast-forward a relationship like that. Call me old-fashioned, but I first have to know exactly what I’m getting into before I get married (and luckily, I did). I did this to make sure I was marrying my best friend, warts and all, and not just in love with the idea of being in love.
I’m not annoyed that they got married so quickly, but I am annoyed that they keep flaunting their disposable income on social media—because it seems like they are constantly on holiday.
Am I jealous? Of course, I am.
It feels like people are divorcing left and right. At the top of my head, I can think of three couples I know that are going through a divorce currently or who recently divorced. Also, it seems like the time they were together didn’t really matter. Some were together for about two years and another for fourteen years. It’s crazy.
Obviously, I don’t want to get divorced. Nobody gets married to get a divorce. So, it is disheartening to see.
I told my husband that if we have problems, I would rather go to a million couples therapy sessions before I even consider a divorce.
But I wonder if it comes back to being in love with the idea of being in love, rather than loving the person who you have. What do you think? Let me know in the comments.